My wife got flowers from her dead father, c/o her TBM sister
Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2020 3:18 pm
This sister is very, very TBM to the point of fanaticism. While she has been kind to DW since our exit from TSCC in 2016, the relationship has that familiar strain which comes with the famous TBM sad, disappointed face.
It started with a phone call from the sister, claiming a very special spiritual experience while thinking about my wife and their dad who passed in 2016. When DW got home she had a beautiful bouquet of flowers on the kitchen table with a card that read, "Dear XXX, you are wonderful, etc.. Love, Dad".
Now, the flowers were fine. The idea that she was thinking about my wife and their dead father was touching. But it's the subtly of the "Love, Dad" part that sends me through the roof. There is an implication that she had a message from Dad, to DW. My wife famously told her angry mother back in 2017 "If the church is true, Dad will come tell me." So that little tidbit is floating in the familial soup. But even her mother didn't dare speak for the dead father.
Worse still, it implies that Sister has a connection with their dad that my DW doesn't (or can't) have because she is out of the church. DW has very poor health, and since leaving the church her health has significantly worsened. There have been hints from her family that, duh, of course she's worse off outside of the church. This message from their dad made my wife feel even more separation from her family; it did NOT make her feel like her dad was watching from heaven.
What the hell is wrong with these self-righteous jerks? It is crystal clear to me that the only message intended was that Sister is close to dad because she is so %$#@ spiritual, and obviously she is that spiritual because she's an active Mormon and DW can't have those kinds of spiritual connections from outside of the pews. I'm really ticked off and defensive for my sweetheart who has had a very difficult journey of integrity by leaving TSCC. If these pompous spiritual giants were so humble, they'd spend 5 minutes trying to understand how a person like my wife feels having their whole world turned upside down. But instead of acting like Jesus and lifting the hands that hang low, they instead proudly climb up the stairs of the Rameumptum and shout to the heavens for all to see, and hurting their exmo siblings in the process.
It started with a phone call from the sister, claiming a very special spiritual experience while thinking about my wife and their dad who passed in 2016. When DW got home she had a beautiful bouquet of flowers on the kitchen table with a card that read, "Dear XXX, you are wonderful, etc.. Love, Dad".
Now, the flowers were fine. The idea that she was thinking about my wife and their dead father was touching. But it's the subtly of the "Love, Dad" part that sends me through the roof. There is an implication that she had a message from Dad, to DW. My wife famously told her angry mother back in 2017 "If the church is true, Dad will come tell me." So that little tidbit is floating in the familial soup. But even her mother didn't dare speak for the dead father.
Worse still, it implies that Sister has a connection with their dad that my DW doesn't (or can't) have because she is out of the church. DW has very poor health, and since leaving the church her health has significantly worsened. There have been hints from her family that, duh, of course she's worse off outside of the church. This message from their dad made my wife feel even more separation from her family; it did NOT make her feel like her dad was watching from heaven.
What the hell is wrong with these self-righteous jerks? It is crystal clear to me that the only message intended was that Sister is close to dad because she is so %$#@ spiritual, and obviously she is that spiritual because she's an active Mormon and DW can't have those kinds of spiritual connections from outside of the pews. I'm really ticked off and defensive for my sweetheart who has had a very difficult journey of integrity by leaving TSCC. If these pompous spiritual giants were so humble, they'd spend 5 minutes trying to understand how a person like my wife feels having their whole world turned upside down. But instead of acting like Jesus and lifting the hands that hang low, they instead proudly climb up the stairs of the Rameumptum and shout to the heavens for all to see, and hurting their exmo siblings in the process.