An update from Holland - the country
Posted: Thu Aug 08, 2019 4:38 am
Hello all,
It’s been a while.
Lots of things have changed.
First of all I suddenly find myself having a new place of my own.
Signed the lease on a new condo just 2 weeks ago.
Secondly: My DD is moving in with me, she’s had enough of her mother.
“I’m the adult one dad, mom is acting like a young teenager, drinking partying and the like”.
She’s starting to go to college at Tilburg, though she could simply choose to do so at Rotterdam near her mother, but she’s simply fed-up.
Thirdly: My DS is moving in with his Finnish girlfriend.
So he’ll be living 995 miles away in Finland.
Conclusion: Mom blew up the family, and 16 months later she’s all alone.
Her BF of 3 years dumped her last Easter.
She also left the Church and she kicked her siblings and parents to the curb last summer too.
In a way I pity her, her “great-reboot” as she called it seems to have backfired spectacularly.
J. called it Karma.
Fourth: I had a very nice couple of days late July with the lady I think I could say is for keeps, J.
We spent 3 days at a resort nearby, she came over from Korea.
I had planned for 2 days, but OK she pleaded and begged me to stay. Furnishing the house could wait, and so it did.
She’s American, LDS, BIC, RM, BYU-I, considers herself NOM.
And almost all of her siblings, her dad, stepmom etc. were there, they all flew in for a week or so.
One sibling lives 1 mile from my office, and we got to know each other through her.
And lastly: J. has stated her intention to stay in Holland indefinitely.
Because she feels ill at ease in the USA, because 8 years in Korea has been plenty.
Because she wants to fade out of Church.
Because her big sister lives here, and because of me.
Yes, it means I’m back in the thick of Mormonism, but on my own terms.
I’m happy as a clam.
It’s been a while.
Lots of things have changed.
First of all I suddenly find myself having a new place of my own.
Signed the lease on a new condo just 2 weeks ago.
Secondly: My DD is moving in with me, she’s had enough of her mother.
“I’m the adult one dad, mom is acting like a young teenager, drinking partying and the like”.
She’s starting to go to college at Tilburg, though she could simply choose to do so at Rotterdam near her mother, but she’s simply fed-up.
Thirdly: My DS is moving in with his Finnish girlfriend.
So he’ll be living 995 miles away in Finland.
Conclusion: Mom blew up the family, and 16 months later she’s all alone.
Her BF of 3 years dumped her last Easter.
She also left the Church and she kicked her siblings and parents to the curb last summer too.
In a way I pity her, her “great-reboot” as she called it seems to have backfired spectacularly.
J. called it Karma.
Fourth: I had a very nice couple of days late July with the lady I think I could say is for keeps, J.
We spent 3 days at a resort nearby, she came over from Korea.
I had planned for 2 days, but OK she pleaded and begged me to stay. Furnishing the house could wait, and so it did.
She’s American, LDS, BIC, RM, BYU-I, considers herself NOM.
And almost all of her siblings, her dad, stepmom etc. were there, they all flew in for a week or so.
One sibling lives 1 mile from my office, and we got to know each other through her.
And lastly: J. has stated her intention to stay in Holland indefinitely.
Because she feels ill at ease in the USA, because 8 years in Korea has been plenty.
Because she wants to fade out of Church.
Because her big sister lives here, and because of me.
Yes, it means I’m back in the thick of Mormonism, but on my own terms.
I’m happy as a clam.
