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Hi everyone : Very frustrated , I have been studying Biblical Christianity but am finding myself more and more frustrated as I lean that way with my wife still in TBM mode. It's hard to listen to the lds b.s. knowing it's not true trying not to make waves or even come out of the closet so to speak . I love Christ and am drawn to mainstream christianity but I stay in the lds church only for family reasons. I need some help !!!

I'm sorry, I wish I had more to give beyond empathy. It is hard when something we hold to be so defining of who we are doesn't jive with what you believe.

That was poorly worded. Either way, I'm sorry.

Maybe it would be useful to steer all religious conversations away from what Elder Someguy F. Authorityman said to what Jesus said or did. If family members don't like talking about Jesus all the time they'll stop bringing up religious topics.

What do you mean by mainstream Christianity?

Are you interested in the technical study of the Bible or the philosophical approach to living the gospel of Jesus Christ in terms of living the golden rule?

Does your frustration come from the lack of spiritual focus on the Bible in LDS worship services?

Frustrated not making any progress trying to turn my TBM wife and with the church's lack of focus on Jesus. I am finding out sooooo many things that are different between the Bible and the lds church !!!

My I polity suggest the problem is that you are trying to force you wife to change and in doing so, human nature for her is to dig in her heals and re-entrench to protect her position.

To quote from another thread:

You can't reason people out of beliefs they never reasoned themselves into. If they're ever going to leave, they need to have their own personal experiences, in their own way, to discover their own questions and doubts; and not merely your shortcuts.

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It it maddening? Yes. Does it make you want to pull your hair out? Yes. But if you really love your wife, it may be better to lay off a bit and let her come to her own conclusions.

I think a healthy marriage has to have space for partners to disagree and be individuals. I wonder if you would be less frustrated if you invested more time into the things that you and your wife have in common.

At my house, the big disagreement for my husband and I is politics. Even though we typically vote opposite of each other, we actually share a lot of the same philosophical beliefs. We just have different opinions about how to make those things happen and what will get it done. What do I do? Tune it out when my husband starts on an infrequent rant about how X politician did Y thing. I usually try not to bring up politics, but if I do, he usually just lets it be, too. We've both learned that's just not a fight we want to have 2,341 times, and it's okay to disagree.