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I have now disclosed my faith transition with 3 of my 5 children. This has been a very emotional experience for DW and I. All in all the discussions have been great, amazing really. I wish this wasn't quite so hard on DW. I think there is some catharsis in it though, less secrets to keep, less pretending, less hiding. The remaining two may be more difficult... One is on a mission, and the other struggles with anxiety.

WOW. Big steps.

Congrats on moving forward. There comes a point that you just have no other choice but to live authentically or you will burst.

Good luck with the remaining 2. Now that the cat is out of the proverbial bag, you probably should share sooner rather than later.

Awesome. My kids were surprisingly understanding. Good job!

I agree with this:

crossmyheart wrote: ↑Fri May 18, 2018 1:59 pm Good luck with the remaining 2. Now that the cat is out of the proverbial bag, you probably should share sooner rather than later.

Shouldn't make kids keep secrets very long, especially from each other. Good luck!

What's the plan for the kid on a mission?

We had a guy on the old board who waited until his kid came home to tell him in person that the family had left the church.

Not sure what I would do in the situation.

I haven't told my kids but they have a pretty good clue since I don't pay tithes and wear G's.

The whole thing just sucks. Nobody wins unless everyone leaves together.

Red Ryder wrote: ↑Fri May 18, 2018 3:59 pm What's the plan for the kid on a mission?

Right now, to wait until later, maybe after he is over half way. Its still in discussion.

Red Ryder wrote: ↑Fri May 18, 2018 3:59 pm The whole thing just sucks. Nobody wins unless everyone leaves together.

This is something I will have to think about...

Congratulations on taking this important step to living a more authentic life. It can be emotionally traumatic, but in the long run, it will free you of so much stress. Best wishes, from Wndr.

Congrats on taking the big step towards being able to be yourself without secrets.

I hope you have just as good of luck with the last two - I have no idea how to handle a child on a mission, but I also understand those who say that waiting until he's back could be a rough one too.

Good luck and if you need people to lean on, this is a great outlet for that.

jfro18 wrote: ↑Sat May 19, 2018 6:40 am Good luck and if you need people to lean on, this is a great outlet for that.

Thanks, and I agree the people here have been very helpful!

Wonderment wrote: ↑Sat May 19, 2018 12:31 am Congratulations on taking this important step to living a more authentic life. It can be emotionally traumatic, but in the long run, it will free you of so much stress. Best wishes, from Wndr.

Thanks, it already has freed us from some of the stress.

Wishing you the best. Your courage in the first steps speaks volumes for your own integrity and self esteem.