Goodbye
Posted: Sun Feb 11, 2018 4:47 pm
I want to type up a little goodbye to folks here.
I don't really know what to say. Thank you for being here when I needed it most. I will never forget being able to interact with you all during the most agonizing time of watching myself lose faith. It was terrifying, and you all helped me through. Just knowing that I was not the only one.
I moved to phoenix and met some of you at a brewery. I walked in, didn't know who I was looking for, and then saw a group of guys who just looked like Mormons, even though they had a dark cloud of apostasy over their heads. It was a wonderful, validating experience. I appreciate that night, and the times since. Thank you all for helping me see past my pigeonhole of mormonism.
I have really tapered off in my participation here. I am doing other things, and I pop back in to try and revive my posting, but I am flat out not interested in most of the conversation anymore. The church is not what it says it is, its not remotely true. At the end of the day, what more is there to say? We can hash out what that means for life, and it feels terrible when your family is wrapped up in it. My life experience dictates that it can be less important to me. Less important as I try to extract from it, and less important when I cannot. Whether you believe there is some good, or it is all bad, I am settling in to my own opinion of it. I am not tired of anyone, I have not regained my faith, I have just moved beyond needing to vent, which is primarily what this space is.
Thanks for being there for me when I needed it most.
My wife is pretty nomish these days. We are slowly coming along in a better understanding of what each wants out of life. It is usually not far off. I am grateful for that. I have the flexibility to do what I want, and I continue support of what she wants. It is not without conflict, but good communication gets us through.
The things that we married each other for are still unchanged by either of our faith crises. It helps to focus on life goals and try, at least on my part, to separate the church from that. If the church can support some of those goals, fine. I can let it if my wife needs it to. If it hinders or doesn't support it then we have some things to discuss. At least the minefield of touchy subjects is cleared a little bit.
I don't have much in the way of advice. If you are here reading this, you are probably in a negative place in your life. Red Ryder once asked me what my exit strategy was. "You don't want to be here 14 years later" he said. Figure out what your exit strategy is to a better place in life. Mine involves talking things out with my wife. Yours may be different, but figure it out. Life is too short to spend any significant time on a forum b!tchin about the church for very long. Please don't get me wrong, I love this place, but for me it is time to move on.
Thanks for being there for me. I don't say that lightly. Friend me on Facebook if you want to get together some time. You can have a beer, I will stick to a diet coke...
Ethan Mower.
I don't really know what to say. Thank you for being here when I needed it most. I will never forget being able to interact with you all during the most agonizing time of watching myself lose faith. It was terrifying, and you all helped me through. Just knowing that I was not the only one.
I moved to phoenix and met some of you at a brewery. I walked in, didn't know who I was looking for, and then saw a group of guys who just looked like Mormons, even though they had a dark cloud of apostasy over their heads. It was a wonderful, validating experience. I appreciate that night, and the times since. Thank you all for helping me see past my pigeonhole of mormonism.
I have really tapered off in my participation here. I am doing other things, and I pop back in to try and revive my posting, but I am flat out not interested in most of the conversation anymore. The church is not what it says it is, its not remotely true. At the end of the day, what more is there to say? We can hash out what that means for life, and it feels terrible when your family is wrapped up in it. My life experience dictates that it can be less important to me. Less important as I try to extract from it, and less important when I cannot. Whether you believe there is some good, or it is all bad, I am settling in to my own opinion of it. I am not tired of anyone, I have not regained my faith, I have just moved beyond needing to vent, which is primarily what this space is.
Thanks for being there for me when I needed it most.
My wife is pretty nomish these days. We are slowly coming along in a better understanding of what each wants out of life. It is usually not far off. I am grateful for that. I have the flexibility to do what I want, and I continue support of what she wants. It is not without conflict, but good communication gets us through.
The things that we married each other for are still unchanged by either of our faith crises. It helps to focus on life goals and try, at least on my part, to separate the church from that. If the church can support some of those goals, fine. I can let it if my wife needs it to. If it hinders or doesn't support it then we have some things to discuss. At least the minefield of touchy subjects is cleared a little bit.
I don't have much in the way of advice. If you are here reading this, you are probably in a negative place in your life. Red Ryder once asked me what my exit strategy was. "You don't want to be here 14 years later" he said. Figure out what your exit strategy is to a better place in life. Mine involves talking things out with my wife. Yours may be different, but figure it out. Life is too short to spend any significant time on a forum b!tchin about the church for very long. Please don't get me wrong, I love this place, but for me it is time to move on.
Thanks for being there for me. I don't say that lightly. Friend me on Facebook if you want to get together some time. You can have a beer, I will stick to a diet coke...
Ethan Mower.
The real credit should go to Corsair though as he’s often said it better; “what do you want to do with your life? Figure it out and go do that! Become indifferent to the church....”
