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In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2018 7:37 pm
by Thoughtful
Not renewal, a redo.
I want different, better vows that don't treat me like property, ones that are based in love and equality, and ones that aren't open ended for him to acquire a harem in the eternities.
He cracked a joke about telling me he loved me before and if it changes he'd let me know. But he did listen when I outlined my issues with 132.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 12:45 am
by Just This Guy
I defiantly want to hear ideas as well. DW and I are planning a vow renewal for later this year. We want to make it our "wedding" on our terms, not a church thing. Haven't got too far in the details yet. So I'm looking for inspiration.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 11:53 am
by GoodBoy
Wow. Good for you.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 12:22 pm
by Dravin
That'd be great. I wish I could ask the wife for a renewal/redo of vows that her non-member father could be present for, but I suspect it'd not go over well.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:12 pm
by Jeffret
Just This Guy wrote: ↑Tue Jan 30, 2018 12:45 am
I defiantly want to hear ideas as well. DW and I are planning a vow renewal for later this year. We want to make it our "wedding" on our terms, not a church thing. Haven't got too far in the details yet. So I'm looking for inspiration.
The incorrect word in that first sentence amuses me. It might even quite work as written.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:18 pm
by wtfluff
This is something I'd like to do also... If the relationship with Spouselady ever got back to the point where I could actually bring something like this up.
Could go either way unfortunately.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 5:53 pm
by Just This Guy
Jeffret wrote: ↑Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:12 pm
Just This Guy wrote: ↑Tue Jan 30, 2018 12:45 am
I defiantly want to hear ideas as well. DW and I are planning a vow renewal for later this year. We want to make it our "wedding" on our terms, not a church thing. Haven't got too far in the details yet. So I'm looking for inspiration.
The incorrect word in that first sentence amuses me. It might even quite work as written.
I never remember how to spell that. If it doen't come up as miss-spelled, I tend to not think about it. That leads to things like this. You would think I would learn...
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 6:34 pm
by Thoughtful
Just This Guy wrote: ↑Tue Jan 30, 2018 12:45 am
I defiantly want to hear ideas as well. DW and I are planning a vow renewal for later this year. We want to make it our "wedding" on our terms, not a church thing. Haven't got too far in the details yet. So I'm looking for inspiration.
In my head, I'm picturing the beach at sunset, just the two of us, share our promises and then get some really good food. No one else needs to be there, but I want it to happen.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 9:12 pm
by Just This Guy
So far our plans are a B&B/Event venue in southern Virginia will be the site. We'll have a small ceremony with some various friends and close family, maybe 30 people total. Good food. Some how we will involve horses.
We want elements of a traditional wedding that we never got in the temple. But we still want something that we can have a good time with friends.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2018 9:51 pm
by Thoughtful
Just This Guy wrote: ↑Tue Jan 30, 2018 9:12 pm
So far our plans are a B&B/Event venue in southern Virginia will be the site. We'll have a small ceremony with some various friends and close family, maybe 30 people total. Good food. Some how we will involve horses.
We want elements of a traditional wedding that we never got in the temple. But we still want something that we can have a good time with friends.
Sounds lovely! I really like it.
I'm not sure we have any friends who understand, and would probably get a lot of TBM, "everytime we go to the temple it's a vow renewal" nonsense.
Re: In Which I asked Spouseman for a vow redo
Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2018 3:01 pm
by Thoughtful
We've booked a trip to Hawaii and plan to steal an evening away from the kids. I think that will do for what I want.