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Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 4:11 am
by Not Buying It
http://www.ldsliving.com/How-an-Anti-Mo ... ed/s/86542

I know what bothers me about this - what bothers you?

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 5:23 am
by Mormorrisey
“One of my issues was why is there no archeological evidence of the Book of Mormon. [But one night] God said to me, ‘Does the fact you can walk the streets of Jerusalem make the Bible true?’ And I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘But what if somebody uncovered a sign tomorrow that said ‘Welcome to Zarehemla, population 420.’ What would that do to the Book of Mormon?’ And I said, ‘Then it would make it true.’ But He said, ‘Then where would be your faith?’”

This, right here, is the problem I had when I read this article yesterday. The same problem when Sis. M. tells me to repent of my bad attitude to the brethren and come to my senses. Once you see what's going on, you can't unsee; it's great this guy can forget all the problems he has studied and to embrace "faith," but it's ridiculous to expect others to do so. It's like asking me to forget what I've read about the law of gravity, and ask me to have "faith" to walk over a cliff. Just can't do it.

And yes, I'm waiting for someone to send this to me to help me with my "apostasy." Usually when that happens, I just pretend they didn't send it.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 7:30 am
by crossmyheart
I am sure my mom has read this more than once already. Surprised she hasn't sent it to me yet.

What was the point of the part about selling his house and then finding out the new owner had let it go into foreclosure?

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 8:16 am
by Anon70
Maybe we need an ex-ldsliving webpage where we can send links of stories of people who have left the church to our TBM family members.

I think that's the hardest part sometimes-they can pray for us, email us this stuff, talk to us about their beliefs all day long. But if we want to share our views, they're offended. 😞

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:02 am
by oliver_denom
When I read stories like this I go back to Fowler's faith stages. It sounds like he was on the cusp of a stage 4 type crisis with Mormonism, but settled back into a stage 3 while traveling to other churches and talking to the "anti-mormons" at the Palmyra pageant. If anyone has been to that pageant, then you know who he's talking about. These are the fire and brimstone evangelicals holding up signs and preaching hell. At stage 3, the important elements of faith are that they are immovable and un-examined.

Discovering inconsistencies with the Book of Mormon is not sufficient for entering a stage 4 - 5 transition, there has to be a point of reflection on the nature of symbol and religion itself. Becoming an "anti-mormon" is the twist in this story, but it could just as easily been about a man who was Catholic, became a Mormon, converted to Evangelical Christianity, and then went back to Mormonism. How would describe someone like this? A religious seeker maybe?

Regardless, his multiple conversions seem to have less to do with any evidences and more about how he interpreted random events in his life as a sign from God. Absent that base framework of belief that the universe is constantly trying to speak to him through life events, we wouldn't have the same sort of story. The little girl he saw die was a sign that God was evil. The random discovery of the Book of Mormon on his mom's shelf was a sign that God wanted him back, and a dream from when he was a kid was associated with Peter, James, and John, so this was a sign that Mormonism was true. A feeling moved him to leave his family and fiance to go on a mission. The one time when he wasn't moved by a feeling or an interpreted sign was when he studied it like an academic, and then he decided it wasn't true.

The same thing that brought him into Mormonism brought him back. He had a feeling like he was being pulled. His friend Mike being persistent was a sign, and when his wife got a job in Salt Lake, that was absolute proof that Mormonism was true again.

I don't want to say that this type of behavior is flaky, but I don't have a better word for it. Instead, I'd say that this is what happens when a person has trained themselves to be superstitious and doesn't have a firm anchor to a community. If he had been born Mormon, then he probably wouldn't left at all, but with his parents divorcing and his family lined up against it, there was nothing keeping him in. He was free to follow whatever feeling or thought crossed his mind. Other parts of his life are almost certainly more concrete, like in his law career, but in the area of metaphysics I don't think he ever left the type of spiritual thinking which typifies many believers, even when he was out of the church.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:16 am
by wtfluff
ldsliving?

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My tooth enamel can't handle me clicking on any links to ldsliving.

But thanks to all of you who can get through those articles for giving me the overview, and letting me know how awful they are... :mrgreen:

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:17 am
by Linked
Man, it's like the playbook of all the things I suspect my family is doing and their hopes for my return. And it keeps them from accepting me for who I am now.
Even as an active anti-Mormon, however, Smith’s connection to the Church never fully disappeared. Smith met a friend on a debate board, a Mormon named Mike. Despite debating viciously against one another, the two became friends. “Mike kept saying, ‘You’ll be LDS someday,’” Smith remembers. Mike’s insistence seemed not only impossible, but insane. However, Mike didn’t give up on Smith. “Every week, every week since 1999, he put my name in the temple,” Smith recalls.
"See, that's how you handle your angry exmo family and friends, and then they will turn around someday and remember the Truth. It's a crazy trick experts don't want you to know." Gag.

I hated the Church. It had deceived me. It had broken up my family. It had cost me so much.
I thought this was interesting, because a lot of ex-mos say this. However, in his case it was converting to the church that broke up his family, rather than leaving it. So really it was a combination of the church and his family's worldview that cost him so much. The article doesn't say how much of a tool he was when he joined the church to push his family away, so who knows what percentage of blame each side gets.


I don't think I can handle anymore...

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:48 am
by Corsair
Here is the crux of the problem expressed as the Lord talking to this gentleman who has serious questions about Joseph Smith's character
“Okay Mr. Attorney, if you are so smart, who would you choose to be a prophet? You who doesn’t believe anything? A doctor who needs proof? I happened to choose a young boy who could accept the impossible, who could dream the unimaginable. That’s the kind of person who was needed to be able to accept and to believe the visions he was seeing and act on the voices he was hearing. Would you have? You have been 26 years fighting it.”
Who would I have? That's a good question. May I recommend Benedict of Nursia or Irenaeus of Lyon. There is also Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau who are contemporaries of Joseph Smith. Closer to now would be Carl Sagan or Neil deGrasse Tyson or Sam Harris. I would be willing to give Christopher Hitchens a try.

I could come up with lots more and I am annoyed that "Joseph Smith" is somehow the answer. By "accept the impossible" and "dream the unimaginable" does that somehow make the human wreckage of polygamy OK? Does this justify Mountain Meadows Massacre? Does this explain away the worst offenses of the BYU Honor code and the LGBT suicides? Does this make the Mark Hoffmann forgeries and murders somehow explainable? Do we have to accept that a story telling hillbilly is the final instantiation of Christianity and mortal salvation?

By the way, I really do want a "doctor who needs proof" when I am dealing with a life threatening illness. This sounds like Mr Attorney was simply talking to himself. I can congratulate him for finding joy in his beliefs, but meanwhile, reddit.com/r/exmormon now has more than 57,000 subscribers who would firmly disagree.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 11:01 am
by Red Ryder
This story sounds too good to be true.

There's some vaguely familiar tones with Holland's recent retraction.

Stuff like this can only be taken serious when your head is so far up your ass you start to see visions and hear voices.

Why did Uchtdorf need to call him David in his talk? Why the pseudonym?
I was touched by the journey of one brother who asked himself, “When the Lord calls, will I hear?” I will call this fine brother David.

David converted to the Church some 30 years ago. He served a mission and then attended law school. While he was studying and working to support a young family, he came across some information about the Church that confused him. The more he read these negative materials, the more unsettled he became. Eventually he asked to have his name removed from the records of the Church.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 11:05 am
by oliver_denom
Corsair wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:48 am Here is the crux of the problem expressed as the Lord talking to this gentleman who has serious questions about Joseph Smith's character
“Okay Mr. Attorney, if you are so smart, who would you choose to be a prophet? You who doesn’t believe anything? A doctor who needs proof? I happened to choose a young boy who could accept the impossible, who could dream the unimaginable. That’s the kind of person who was needed to be able to accept and to believe the visions he was seeing and act on the voices he was hearing. Would you have? You have been 26 years fighting it.”
Who would I have? That's a good question. May I recommend Benedict of Nursia or Irenaeus of Lyon. There is also Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau who are contemporaries of Joseph Smith. Closer to now would be Carl Sagan or Neil deGrasse Tyson or Sam Harris. I would be willing to give Christopher Hitchens a try.

I could come up with lots more and I am annoyed that "Joseph Smith" is somehow the answer. By "accept the impossible" and "dream the unimaginable" does that somehow make the human wreckage of polygamy OK? Does this justify Mountain Meadows Massacre? Does this explain away the worst offenses of the BYU Honor code and the LGBT suicides? Does this make the Mark Hoffmann forgeries and murders somehow explainable? Do we have to accept that a story telling hillbilly is the final instantiation of Christianity and mortal salvation?
In spite of the church's narrative, I think any sane human being would immediately fall in line if visited by God and Jesus in the manner that Joseph Smith claimed. If not, then why sort of god are we dealing with? "I don't ever want to be questioned, not even a little bit. I don't want to be challenged in the least nor forced to explain myself, so I'm going to choose a child." WTF God? He certainly didn't have those qualms when choosing a 100 year old Abraham, and his selection was at least as important as any other dispensation leader if not more so considering his place in Mormonism. Not even Jesus started his ministry until he was 30.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 12:07 pm
by Linked
Corsair wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:48 am Do we have to accept that a story telling hillbilly is the final instantiation of Christianity and mortal salvation?
Amen Corsair. Preach brother.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 1:02 pm
by BriansThoughtMirror
oliver_denom wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:02 am Regardless, his multiple conversions seem to have less to do with any evidences and more about how he interpreted random events in his life as a sign from God. Absent that base framework of belief that the universe is constantly trying to speak to him through life events, we wouldn't have the same sort of story. The little girl he saw die was a sign that God was evil. The random discovery of the Book of Mormon on his mom's shelf was a sign that God wanted him back, and a dream from when he was a kid was associated with Peter, James, and John, so this was a sign that Mormonism was true. A feeling moved him to leave his family and fiance to go on a mission. The one time when he wasn't moved by a feeling or an interpreted sign was when he studied it like an academic, and then he decided it wasn't true.
oliver_denom, I really loved your analysis!

Also, this article seems to be one more way of saying, "don't worry about those issues". Also, is gives family members hope that they can change our minds without answering any of our questions. Bleh. They also don't get into any of the real criticisms in the article.

At the same time, I'm sure this guy is sincere. Good for him, I hope he's happy.

EDIT- Oh, also, do they no longer allow or display comments on ldsliving? I guess they'd hate to have this discussion showing up on their page.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 2:26 pm
by RubinHighlander
oliver_denom wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:02 am Becoming an "anti-mormon" is the twist in this story, but it could just as easily been about a man who was Catholic, became a Mormon, converted to Evangelical Christianity, and then went back to Mormonism. How would describe someone like this? A religious seeker maybe?
I'm adding +1 to this.

This guy really needs a tribe, whether it was anti-mos, Catholics or back to be a TBM; it looks obvious to me that he had to fill the gap and just could not live with being in that place of total independence from religion or a group of some kind. If he had gone beyond the BOM truth claims and dug into religion itself, back to the bible and all other faiths that claim a one true path, then he would have discovered all the BS and maybe he could have moved beyond it.

It would be good to fact check the healing story. If doctors would not treat him, how could two missionaries just march into the room and put themselves at risk like that, let alone the take up your bed and walk claim. Those types of stories fall into the same category as the Julie Rowe last days visions and many other pseudo-science fill the gaps types of things. It also contradicts the church's pulpit policy on sharing miracles like that because they are too sacred, but there it is in B&W on LDSliving.

The last article I read from that mag was so ridiculous it lost all credibility with me. It was about how the BoA explains how the universe works and tells us everything we need to know about astrophysics! That is exactly the type of ignorance and BS that religion perpetuates and the world would be much better off without it, IMHO.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 2:29 pm
by RubinHighlander
RubinHighlander wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 2:26 pm
oliver_denom wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:02 am Becoming an "anti-mormon" is the twist in this story, but it could just as easily been about a man who was Catholic, became a Mormon, converted to Evangelical Christianity, and then went back to Mormonism. How would describe someone like this? A religious seeker maybe?
I'm adding +1 to this. What also came to mind is how rare these coming back stories are vs. folks leaving.

This guy really needs a tribe, whether it was anti-mos, Catholics or back to be a TBM; it looks obvious to me that he had to fill the gap and just could not live with being in that place of total independence from religion or a group of some kind. If he had gone beyond the BOM truth claims and dug into religion itself, back to the bible and all other faiths that claim a one true path, then he would have discovered all the BS and maybe he could have moved beyond it.

It would be good to fact check the healing story. If doctors would not treat him, how could two missionaries just march into the room and put themselves at risk like that, let alone the take up your bed and walk claim. Those types of stories fall into the same category as the Julie Rowe last days visions and many other pseudo-science fill the gaps types of things. It also contradicts the church's pulpit policy on sharing miracles like that because they are too sacred, but there it is in B&W on LDSliving.

The last article I read from that mag was so ridiculous it lost all credibility with me. It was about how the BoA explains how the universe works and tells us everything we need to know about astrophysics! That is exactly the type of ignorance and BS that religion perpetuates and the world would be much better off without it, IMHO.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 2:55 pm
by achilles
oliver_denom wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 9:02 am When I read stories like this I go back to Fowler's faith stages. It sounds like he was on the cusp of a stage 4 type crisis with Mormonism, but settled back into a stage 3 while traveling to other churches and talking to the "anti-mormons" at the Palmyra pageant. If anyone has been to that pageant, then you know who he's talking about. These are the fire and brimstone evangelicals holding up signs and preaching hell. At stage 3, the important elements of faith are that they are immovable and un-examined.

Discovering inconsistencies with the Book of Mormon is not sufficient for entering a stage 4 - 5 transition, there has to be a point of reflection on the nature of symbol and religion itself. Becoming an "anti-mormon" is the twist in this story, but it could just as easily been about a man who was Catholic, became a Mormon, converted to Evangelical Christianity, and then went back to Mormonism. How would describe someone like this? A religious seeker maybe?
Bingo.

In addition to (and maybe along with) the Stages theory, I think it's problematic that this article lumps all inactive/unbelieving/ex/anti-Mormons in the same category. But there are some very different reasons behind the disaffection in each of these categories, and some of them are just not gonna come back. At least, come back to genuine belief (Stage 3 belief?)

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 2:59 pm
by achilles
And another thing, Mormons can be over-broad in their use of the term "Anti-Mormon".

It could mean anything ranging from "asking the wrong questions in Church (and shaking someone else's faith)" to full-on "working actively to destroy the Church economically, socially, politically, spiritually", etc.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:26 pm
by Raylan Givens
I think the ending about some have great experiences, some just a still voice. I guess I must have ear plugs in, radio silence on the Church, but megaphone about showing kindness to others and to keep searching...

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2017 10:30 pm
by Thoughtful
People seeing historical material that "unsettles" them... but then they decide to have faith and ignore all the problems.

In other words, they are announcing in these stories tat the history is actually quite problematic. But don't worry.

This is "inoculation".

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2017 10:00 pm
by Wonderment
And another thing, Mormons can be over-broad in their use of the term "Anti-Mormon".

It could mean anything ranging from "asking the wrong questions in Church (and shaking someone else's faith)" to full-on "working actively to destroy the Church economically, socially, politically, spiritually", etc.
Yes. "Anti-Mormon" is a term that paints with a broad brush. It can mean asking skeptical questions that TBM's do not know how to answer or do not want to answer. It's the kind of questions that people put on their shelf when they first encounter the concept of being NOM.

Re: Proof all you anti-Mormons will eventually come around...

Posted: Fri Oct 06, 2017 4:48 am
by Dravin
Mormorrisey wrote: Wed Oct 04, 2017 5:23 am “One of my issues was why is there no archeological evidence of the Book of Mormon. [But one night] God said to me, ‘Does the fact you can walk the streets of Jerusalem make the Bible true?’ And I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘But what if somebody uncovered a sign tomorrow that said ‘Welcome to Zarehemla, population 420.’ What would that do to the Book of Mormon?’ And I said, ‘Then it would make it true.’ But He said, ‘Then where would be your faith?’”

This, right here, is the problem I had when I read this article yesterday. The same problem when Sis. M. tells me to repent of my bad attitude to the brethren and come to my senses. Once you see what's going on, you can't unsee; it's great this guy can forget all the problems he has studied and to embrace "faith," but it's ridiculous to expect others to do so. It's like asking me to forget what I've read about the law of gravity, and ask me to have "faith" to walk over a cliff. Just can't do it.
What gets me is once you disconnect faith from a need for evidence to support it, why Mormonism over say Islam, or Hinduism, or Catholicism, or just Deism? Why do you need to repent and have faith in the brothern and not repent and have faith in the Pope? When faith becomes a synonymous with "just believe because" it can literally be used to justify belief in anything, I see no value in that. They're trying to lure me with what they think is a worm and what I think is rat poison.