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Some of us have been through the depths of depression and have considered suicide and yet are still kicking and may have some words of support and encouragement to offer those who are struggling. So, please let's dedicate this thread to those who may or may not ever post here, but may read and may find some hope.


Hey,
First off, I think it's essential to acknowledge how you feel. Feelings are not fact, but they are a strange kind of personal truth that has real, physiological influence. How you feel is valid - even if it seems crazy. Feelings don't have to be acted on, but they do need some noticing and processing. For me, it's helped to put them in words - writing, talking. Feel free to post here or to send me a private message.

One simple thing that's taken me a while to realize about depression ("depress") is that it's the opposite of moving, so move! Even if you don't feel like it - do something! Getting up, going on a walk, calling someone, or some kind of exercise can help more than anything!

Having problems is not a problem - it actually is something we need to feel a sense of purpose, though of course, sometimes it can feel overwhelming, especially if you don't know what the problem is or how to solve it. A couple other things that have helped me is correcting cognitive distortions https://psychcentral.com/lib/challengin ... -outlooks/ and overcoming life traps http://www.tunnelukkosi.fi/en/lifetraps.htm.

I hope that helps and that you find in yourself your strength and potential to get through and be stronger for it.

I'll add - Don't be afraid to get professional help. Anti-depressants can work wonders to help your body get out of its learned reaction to your conditions and working with a skilled licensed professional counselor can help you learn how to cope with intrusive thoughts (such as thoughts of suicide).

I have struggled with my mental health through my faith transition and becoming a parent which happened simultaneously.

What helped me is being honest about my feelings to trusted people for me that was my spouse and some friends.

I haven't been able to do any talk therapy because. life. but I am hoping to start in a few months.
It did help me to study stoicism. I use meditations and affirmations from youtube, but some days they do not work.
I try to view my emotions as weather. Sometimes it's a sunny day, sometimes it's a drizzle, sometimes it's a hurricane, but whatever the weather, it WILL come to an end. Other weather will come. This is undoubtedly more complicated for those with diagnosed clinical depression, but for those with bouts of situational depression or high functioning depression, etc. this idea may be helpful.

You are not alone.
There is zero shame in asking for help.
For me, It feels like a huge weight is lifted to just be honest about the thoughts in your head.