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New to the board

Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:22 pm
by tapirrider
New to the board. Anything I should know?

Re: New to the board

Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:28 pm
by oliver_denom
tapirrider wrote: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:22 pm New to the board. Anything I should know?
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 6:17 am
by TestimonyLost
Welcome! This is a safe place with good people. We have a pretty dim view of the church at times, but I haven't found a better place for support if you're struggling to deal with the LDS church in one way or another.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 9:48 am
by MoPag
Welcome to the ward family! We have a very diverse ward with people in all stages of faith transition. We also have members who have moved on to other religions or belief systems, and members who have decided that the best life for them is one without spiritualty or religion. Despite our diversity we've made a great place where we can share, learn, grow, laugh, cry and heal. Welcome to the fold Tapirrider!

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 10:51 am
by Corsair
tapirrider wrote: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:22 pm New to the board. Anything I should know?
Yes, you are not the crazy person in this relationship with the church. The LDS church is not necessarily evil, but it does insist on holding more moral authority than seems warranted. I encourage you to figure out what your moral center truly should be and use that to make a better life for yourself whether or not you keep your LDS membership and a temple recommend.

Be kind to the believers around you, especially if you are married to one. It turns out that only the rarest of believers really want to know what you think about the LDS church unless it matches an orthodox position espoused in general conference. It's rarely useful to burn bridges with your loved ones. Don't spend time justifying any break from LDS standards. Instead, find a more authentic way to live and let the believers come to you.

The LDS church does not fear persecution. It fears being ignored. In light of that, we are not trying to tear down the LDS church. It still works for many people including a lot of spouses of regular board members. A surprising number of regular forum posters hold a current temple recommend and a ward calling for their own reasons.

You are not going to offend anyone with even handed criticism of the LDS church, but we want discussions to be civil. It's not that interesting or helpful to say, "The church sucks!" Instead, we are better off starting a discussion with, "The LDS church has been profoundly unhelpful to me and my family when it does this thing..."

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 11:05 am
by Red Ryder
I have to disagree with Corsair for once.

Sometimes just saying the "The church sucks" is perfectly fine.

The church sucks...
Your time,
Your money,
Your sexuality,
Your individuality,
Your sensuality,
Your personality,
Your Sunday afternoon,
Your Monday night,
Your spouse when you fight,
Your joy,
Your love,
Your invalidated above,
Your relationship with The Lord,
Your friendships from the ward

Oh, and welcome to the board!

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 11:30 am
by Nonny
Welcome tapirrider. I hope you enjoy being part of our little group. It's nice to have another tapir rider. Just please don't use the same avatar as Hagoth, cuz then I would be really confused. ;)

Tell us a little about yourself. What brings you here? How did you find us?

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 11:54 am
by Corsair
Red Ryder wrote: Mon Jul 17, 2017 11:05 am I have to disagree with Corsair for once.

Sometimes just saying the "The church sucks" is perfectly fine.

The church sucks...
Your time,
Your money,
Your sexuality,
Your individuality,
Your sensuality,
Your personality,
Your Sunday afternoon,
Your Monday night,
Your spouse when you fight,
Your joy,
Your love,
Your invalidated above,
Your relationship with The Lord,
Your friendships from the ward

Oh, and welcome to the board!
OK, you may have a point. I have to grant that you backed up your statement with a long list of discernably true instances when that giant sucking sound can be quickly attributed to a single root cause. That does seem to make the church suck.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 12:47 pm
by Linked
Welcome to NOM tapirrider! I look forward to your posts.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Mon Jul 17, 2017 4:07 pm
by SeeNoEvil
Welcome tapirrider! We are a great bunch of misfits who all know the real story of the Mormon church. Tell us about yourself. What brought you here?
How can we help you?

Re: New to the board

Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 2:30 pm
by Korihor
Where can I take Tapir Riding lessons?

Re: New to the board

Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 4:50 pm
by Corsair
Korihor wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2017 2:30 pm Where can I take Tapir Riding lessons?
Clearly he needs an appropriate Tapir Riding avatar also.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 10:02 pm
by Korihor
Corsair wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2017 4:50 pm
Korihor wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2017 2:30 pm Where can I take Tapir Riding lessons?
Clearly he needs an appropriate Tapir Riding avatar also.
Moroni already has his trusty steed - but I'm pretty sure Jesus needs his New World transportation beast

Re: New to the board

Posted: Fri Jul 21, 2017 6:45 pm
by Newme
tapirrider wrote: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:22 pm New to the board. Anything I should know?
Yes, a lot!
And lots you need to unlearn. ;)
We're all in this process together!
Welcome! :)

Re: New to the board

Posted: Sat Jul 22, 2017 6:23 am
by No Tof
Welcome to NOM.
Seems like for now, exploring is more important than knowing.

Hope you share where you are in your own faith journey.

Re: New to the board

Posted: Sat Jul 22, 2017 9:44 am
by AllieOop
tapirrider wrote: Sun Jul 16, 2017 8:22 pm New to the board. Anything I should know?
Just be yourself....no one judges here and there's a great feeling of acceptance and understanding. I hope you'll tell us more about yourself!

Welcome :)