Give It Time wrote: ↑Sun Jun 04, 2017 8:45 am
I don't quite know what to say. I grew up in the stake where a lot of the GAs and the prophet lived. I understand the anger expressed on NOM. I abhgFTunderstand the hurt and disillusionment. I get it, but I've known and liked our leaders. I've known and liked their offspring and relatives. I've seen people intentionally try to publicly humiliate them and I've seen them handle it with marvelous class.
No problem with this. I am glad that some of them DO try to follow the teachings they profess to believe, including being kind and having patience, long suffering, etc...
Give It Time wrote: ↑Sun Jun 04, 2017 8:45 am
They've been kind. The Q15 go to tithing settlement. I have it on good authority a certain very unpopular in the DAMU apostle cleans the chapel when it's his turn. I've been to their homes and, yes there was still the fishbowl element, but their homes seemed to be happy.
I have been to homes where children were cast out because they were Gay, and families were torn apart because the children wanted to get married in the temple and had parents not able to attend. I've seen a man cry and tremble with deep soul sobs of agony because he was born a freak--a gay man who had forced himself to marry as Spencer Kimball urged, prayed until his knees buckled and there were no more tears to shed, and concluded he just must not have enough faith since President Boyd Packer said repeatedly that this was NOT the true condition of this soul. Obviously he didn't have enough faith....because after all, a prophet or in this case apostle would not be wrong about such matters.
I'm being direct here GIT, but you have separated the personal lives of these people with the teachings and the effects those teachings have on others.
You are right...some good TBM have wonderful lives. They have happy children, happy marriages, and sufficient for their needs. And therefore, does this give them license to teach things, in the name of GOD, even threatening eternal damnation, without accountability?
What of the public humiliations that use to happen with regards to public announcements (that still happen a lot more than you think) about excommunications, and the efforts taken to silence those who oppose? What about the policies to NOT correct past teachings, but just leave them out there and NOT refer to them--and the consequences that happen when people DO refer to them and dire circumstances ensue?
If you recall, Brigham Young taught blood atonement, and sent men like Jackson, Rockwell and Hickman out to actually kill in the name of God. And the current leadership teaches as a tenant of the faith that ONLY GOD will correct the brethren? And yet, we support the prophets, all the way from Joseph Smith through the current leadership?
What a license for abuse! What a license for neglect, and what a soft bubble placed around men who can destroy through teachings and fear, and yet have complete antipathy and ignorance toward the effects of their teachings on others.
How can they do it?....why ofcourse (being sarcastic here), they speak for God. Nay....GOD SPEAKS THROUGH THEM....and so if there are casualties because of their teachings, then that is the FAULT OF THE PEOPLE.
Like my poor friend who could never bring himself to commit suicide because he was too afraid of that--if he ONLY had enough faith, he would be cured. After all, Boyd Packer said it was so, in the name of GOD.
And lest we forget, it is the will of God that Satan have a representation on the earth. That is why Blacks were allowed to survive the "universal flood" . In that teaching, as in others, we have admission of mistakes being made, and yet in the same vein: "We can not lead you astray...God will not allow that."....hunh?
Give It Time wrote: ↑Sun Jun 04, 2017 8:45 am
Even though it's grudgingly given, I appreciate the empathy for our leaders. Much as I'd like to knock their heads together and get them working on solving some serious problems in our church, I do try to realize that they are human beings and just as fallible as the rest of us. Every one of them sits with a sword of Damocles over his head and I would never trade places with any of them.
I have empathy for only those who perhaps are honestly ignorant of the teachings and history. I recall the Swedish guy who spoke on Ex Mormons a while ago--who left the church when he "woke up" (his own words). But, I do NOT have empathy for those who are aware of the history and excuse it away, in the name of "not speaking evil of the Lord's anointed."
I once heard someone compare the position of the church to an abusive marriage. In such a marriage, lets take the man as saying: "Where will you go without me? What will you do? I'm here for you, take care of your needs. I give you meaning?"....and yet this same man uses shame, threats, controls the information, speaks with supreme authority, doesn't take or listen to feedback, and expects complete alleience, even obedience, for blessings to be granted. And when those blessings are not granted, it is because it wasn't God's will, or perhaps just not enough faith.
If the wife decides to leave such a marriage, the community is turned against her--she is not allowed to find work in the community, it shunned, and is told she is a child of hell for leaving.
I would consider THAT an abusive marriage.
Why then is it not an abusive relationship because it is in the Church?
So, I wonder, what do these men do who know the history and the teachings?....how can someone morally take this type of position?