Interview memory...
Posted: Mon May 08, 2017 6:58 pm
The interview thread brought this memory back... My DH had gotten a job in a state several states away. I was staying put to have a baby and sell the house. I had a few other babies at home. We asked for no help but also no one offered any. We lived near family who were helpful.
The more pregnant I got the more stressed out I got. I was also working part-time. House didn't sell as quickly as planned. I kind of thought people would reach out and offer support or help I think. New counselor in the bishopric moved to our town recently from Utah. He called me in and I seriously thought it was to check on me. He asked me-8 months pregnant, to serve in nursery. I remember being totally taken aback. I already had a calling-teaching something that was fairly easy they were going to release me from. I reminded him of my circumstances and he was totally disgusted by me and lectured me on sacrifice and service and the way to not be stressed was to serve the lord. I remember being seriously just overwhelmed by what he was saying and how he was saying it.
As I left he pressured me to think about it and said he'd follow up. His uber TBM Utah wife reached out that week and also scolded/pressured me to "do my part." No one brought me a meal or watched my kids or came to visit. The bishop literally avoided me by stepping into a classroom and not making eye contact. I didn't take the calling. Our house eventually sold and when we moved no one said a word.
This was a ward I had served in some pretty big callings and we had done some significant service in as a family. 100% VT and HT. Full tithe payers. TRs. Full activity. I must have signed up for every compassionate service sign up. For years I felt like there had to have been something wrong with me for them to treat me this way. Like I wasn't good enough. TBM enough.
The more pregnant I got the more stressed out I got. I was also working part-time. House didn't sell as quickly as planned. I kind of thought people would reach out and offer support or help I think. New counselor in the bishopric moved to our town recently from Utah. He called me in and I seriously thought it was to check on me. He asked me-8 months pregnant, to serve in nursery. I remember being totally taken aback. I already had a calling-teaching something that was fairly easy they were going to release me from. I reminded him of my circumstances and he was totally disgusted by me and lectured me on sacrifice and service and the way to not be stressed was to serve the lord. I remember being seriously just overwhelmed by what he was saying and how he was saying it.
As I left he pressured me to think about it and said he'd follow up. His uber TBM Utah wife reached out that week and also scolded/pressured me to "do my part." No one brought me a meal or watched my kids or came to visit. The bishop literally avoided me by stepping into a classroom and not making eye contact. I didn't take the calling. Our house eventually sold and when we moved no one said a word.
This was a ward I had served in some pretty big callings and we had done some significant service in as a family. 100% VT and HT. Full tithe payers. TRs. Full activity. I must have signed up for every compassionate service sign up. For years I felt like there had to have been something wrong with me for them to treat me this way. Like I wasn't good enough. TBM enough.
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