NOM

As I begin this journey on NOM, I would like to know who my new friends are.
Can you let me know if you are a current "member of record" or no.
Thank you.

I am a member, active non-believer. Hold a recommend and calling. Go most weeks. Often because of habit, or because the weather sucks, or to be with family and friends, or because I have pressure to go.

Sometimes I enjoy it. Sometimes it is uplifting. Sometimes I put up with it. Other times it is maddening.

Many here are in the same boat. Some have left on the record and others just emotionally.

I will let others speak for themselves.

Yep, member of record, for what that is worth anymore.

I'm on the rolls, but not in the chairs for 2 years now. Don't plan on changing either status.

Technically still on the roles, but 20 years since I've attended.

I'm still a member, but my husband and I have not attended for almost 7 years. Two of my four kids are still very active and very involved, so I try to stay informed of what is going on within the church.

I keep hoping that at least one of my 2 (they are the older 2 who are active) will figure things out and someday become a member here on NOM.....I can only dream for now though! I am envious of those on here who got out when all their kids were young enough to leave with them.

Welcome. I have not been active for about a year and a half and am now considering officially resigning. My temple reccomend expired last June. Before that I have always had a recommend and toed the line since I recieved my endowment at 19. Served a mission. Went to college for way too long and took an institute class every single semester. Married in the temple. Had four kids. Served in various callings but nothing too major. Went down the rabbit hole. Found Richard Bushman. Found BCC. Found Rational Faiths. Found the FAIR podcast. Found Mormon Matters podcast. Doubled down. Found Mormon Stories. Found Dialog. Found David Bokovoy. Found Michael Quinn. Found Todd Compton. Found out I've been lied to and deceived my whole life. Got PISSED! Got sad. Got depressed. Got scared. Got therapy. Stopped going. Wife stopped going. Went camping. Got free. Getting better.

I don't show up here a lot anymore, but I probably should. I received a lot of support here. These are good people that will support whatever direction your journey takes you.

Yes. My son is a full believer. I attend to support him. Problem is he hates the ward (actually, he hates Mormon ways and hasn't been in enough wards to know that's just how we are), so he and I don't attend much. Frankly, I am a spiritual person, if attending without my son didn't make him look bad, I'd probably attend 10-20% more.

57 year old high priest. Totally just going through the motions because of spouse. Full tithe payer and temple recommend holder. Shelf was rickety throughout my 30+ years as an active member. Completely crashed about a year ago. Had several discussions with TBM wife about my disaffection. We have a stable truce. I pretend to be active and she won't torment me about "coming back"

desertrat wrote: ↑Tue May 02, 2017 9:06 pm Welcome. I have not been active for about a year and a half and am now considering officially resigning. My temple reccomend expired last June. Before that I have always had a recommend and toed the line since I recieved my endowment at 19. Served a mission. Went to college for way too long and took an institute class every single semester. Married in the temple. Had four kids. Served in various callings but nothing too major. Went down the rabbit hole. Found Richard Bushman. Found BCC. Found Rational Faiths. Found the FAIR podcast. Found Mormon Matters podcast. Doubled down. Found Mormon Stories. Found Dialog. Found David Bokovoy. Found Michael Quinn. Found Todd Compton. Found out I've been lied to and deceived my whole life. Got PISSED! Got sad. Got depressed. Got scared. Got therapy. Stopped going. Wife stopped going. Went camping. Got free. Getting better.

Sheesh! I'm exhausted just reading that desertrat!
I'm a 1 hour a week mormon working on maintaining my status in the "Not Even Once Fast Sunday Club". Still a member of record without a TR, non tithe paying, lame calling that requires literally nothing from me. If Mormonism is a big tent, I'm literally standing at the back with one foot out the door. Pretty much just attached through the wife and kids desire to go.

NOM can be anything you want it to be. From 99% active to 99% inactive or even resigned. Some here have resigned but still find value in our community. It's up to you.

I attend, have callings, pay tithing, and have a TR because I've so far seen my way clear to answer the questions.

On the rolls. Active. Callings. TR. Pay tithing on increase. Non believer. So many reasons for still attending. Welcome!

NOWmormon wrote: ↑Tue May 02, 2017 6:26 pm As I begin this journey on NOM, I would like to know who my new friends are.
Can you let me know if you are a current "member of record" or no.
Thank you.

NOMs tend to have such varied beliefs, that choosing a friend or foe based solely on "member of record" might not be the best decision making criteria. For instance, on first sight, I would have trouble distinguishing a True Blue Mormon for a practicing Druid unless I knew for certain that Druids do not have a thing for wearing IBM business apparel on Sundays.

Yes.

Still on the books, but formal email sent to SP and Bish two years ago.

I stay somewhat informed on the goings on with the COB as I still have an active mom and some active extended fam. Also have several TBM cooworkers and friends. I enjoy living in Utah: The liquor laws suck but it's not prohibition. There's a lot of things closed on Sundays but most folks are in church so it's less of them in the great outdoors!

Active, weekly attendance, serve on Scout Committee and in YM Presidency, current temple recommend, believe virtually none of the doctrine, don't pay tithing. But I enjoy scouting.

My dear wife is a strong believer and we have come to peace over our differences mainly by not talking about them. While this is not the most healthy state, I am at a place in my non-belief where I am simply bored with the church so not talking about the problems is not as appealing as it once was. I spend more time on other secular pursuits that are better for my well being and career. My children are effectively 50% out and it would not surprise me to see that at 75% or 100% in a few years. My one child that is most faithful is also the most emotionally mature and will not suffer fools. If she remains in the church I truly expect that it will be a relatively healthy place for her.

I seem to be changing weekly.

Name still on records. Don't believe any of the hokus pokus. I recognize and value the people and their good hearts (even if they still believe for whatever reason). Until recently we were mostly active, but 2 weeks ago was our last. Still have a temple recommend. Don't plan on actually attending the temple.

Mormonism is my tribe/community. But that seems to be changing is that is it only one of our tribes/communities.

Trying to decide whether or not to remove name from records.

Given the opportunity, I would like to do something to force their hand and hold a "court of love" rather than simply resigning.

I attend weekly, have a calling, and a TR. I don't have any reason to resign. I wouldn't mind going inactive, but I remain active for my husband (more so because his family lives close by). I fantasize about making a cross country move where no one knows I'm mormon and I can start all over.

MerrieMiss wrote: ↑Wed May 03, 2017 11:16 am I attend weekly, have a calling, and a TR. I don't have any reason to resign. I wouldn't mind going inactive, but I remain active for my husband (more so because his family lives close by). I fantasize about making a cross country move where no one knows I'm mormon and I can start all over.

Exactly this.

Member of record, non attending.

Did everything on the mormon-checklist for more than 40 years before my bubble popped!

Spouse still attends, children 66.7% out so far...