Does your spouse know you post on NOM?

[1smartdodog]

I use to hide it but not anymore. A life of hiding who you are is tiresome. When i was willing to live with the consequences I was willing to live a more authentic life.

My wife now is more NOM than mormon but she still believes some. She has no interest in boards like this.


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[NOMormon]

My wife found out about my NOMing ways but never brought it up in conversation. She knew I had been struggling with my faith so she did the honorable thing and left me without saying goodbye. That was a year ago and she has since found a man who honors his priesthood. I'm sure our eternal marriage will soon be annulled so she can have the priesthood in her home full time. I must have left my computer logged in as she suddenly knew quite a lot about my grievances with the church. I still miss her dearly but I just couldn't go on living the lie. I don't regret the time I've spent on this message board but I do wish I had kept it to myself.

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[Palerider]

My wife found out about my NOMing ways but never brought it up in conversation. She knew I had been struggling with my faith so she did the honorable thing and left me without saying goodbye. That was a year ago and she has since found a man who honors his priesthood. I'm sure our eternal marriage will soon be annulled so she can have the priesthood in her home full time. I must have left my computer logged in as she suddenly knew quite a lot about my grievances with the church. I still miss her dearly but I just couldn't go on living the lie. I don't regret the time I've spent on this message board but I do wish I had kept it to myself.

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Wow.........

That's pretty harsh.

But in a way it tells you how deep that river really ran. Did she love you or just a certain concept of you? It sounds like it was on the shallow side.

Further, I can't believe any decent Bishop would have counseled her to do this or approved of it without a serious attempt at saving the marriage.

So cold.

[NOMormon]

You are right that my wife had a very shallow idea of who I am as a person. During the divorce I mentioned to my mom that I didn't think my wife loved me any more. My mom, a very perceptive person, said "son, she never did". I think deep down I already knew that.

I've been on NOM for 5-6 years and used to post occasionally under a different name. I do read almost every thread and feel like I know personally some of you who post a lot.

I heard my wife complaining on the phone to her mother that I was posting on an anti Mormon message board and I think that was the final straw for her. It was odd to me that she never once tried to save my soul from hell. Makes me wonder if she really believes There is a hell. Be cautious about your online activities. For some TBM's its the bridge too far.

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[Palerider]

You are right that my wife had a very shallow idea of who I am as a person. During the divorce I mentioned to my mom that I didn't think my wife loved me any more. My mom, a very perceptive person, said "son, she never did". I think deep down I already knew that.

Castaway is not an easy film to watch but I always take to heart this line from Tom Hanks near the end:

"And I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?"

Hang in there.

[Red Ryder]

You are right that my wife had a very shallow idea of who I am as a person. During the divorce I mentioned to my mom that I didn't think my wife loved me any more. My mom, a very perceptive person, said "son, she never did". I think deep down I already knew that.

I've been on NOM for 5-6 years and used to post occasionally under a different name. I do read almost every thread and feel like I know personally some of you who post a lot.

I heard my wife complaining on the phone to her mother that I was posting on an anti Mormon message board and I think that was the final straw for her. It was odd to me that she never once tried to save my soul from hell. Makes me wonder if she really believes There is a hell. Be cautious about your online activities. For some TBM's its the bridge too far.

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This hurts to read but have you considered this as a gift? You’re free to live authentically and pursue new relationships void of scripture reading charts, conference talks, and religious underwear!

I really didn’t talk about my faith crisis with my wife in depth because I feared she would walk away from the marriage. Then time passed and we still have the elephant in the room. In some ways I now wished I would have dropped the full truth bomb and worked through the consequences. Walking a tightrope in marriage is mentally exhausting. At first I was afraid we would get divorced, now I’m afraid we will never get divorced and we will just live within a weird mental cage called a mixed faith marriage.

I hope you find a reason to dream big and live your life chasing things you want. There are new relationships that await you so go join Tinder!

[Raylan Givens]

You are right that my wife had a very shallow idea of who I am as a person. During the divorce I mentioned to my mom that I didn't think my wife loved me any more. My mom, a very perceptive person, said "son, she never did". I think deep down I already knew that.

I've been on NOM for 5-6 years and used to post occasionally under a different name. I do read almost every thread and feel like I know personally some of you who post a lot.

I heard my wife complaining on the phone to her mother that I was posting on an anti Mormon message board and I think that was the final straw for her. It was odd to me that she never once tried to save my soul from hell. Makes me wonder if she really believes There is a hell. Be cautious about your online activities. For some TBM's its the bridge too far.

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This hurts to read but have you considered this as a gift? You’re free to live authentically and pursue new relationships void of scripture reading charts, conference talks, and religious underwear!

I really didn’t talk about my faith crisis with my wife in depth because I feared she would walk away from the marriage. Then time passed and we still have the elephant in the room. In some ways I now wished I would have dropped the full truth bomb and worked through the consequences. Walking a tightrope in marriage is mentally exhausting. At first I was afraid we would get divorced, now I’m afraid we will never get divorced and we will just live within a weird mental cage called a mixed faith marriage.

I hope you find a reason to dream big and live your life chasing things you want. There are new relationships that await you so go join Tinder!

RR, you shared this years ago and it made all the difference to me. Luckily, I have a very superstitious and the same time very skeptical wife. She saw past the first and moved toward the second.

Good luck NOMormon, make yourself your best self.

[Hagoth]

I hope you find a reason to dream big and live your life chasing things you want. There are new relationships that await you so go join Tinder!

AMEN!

[Mackman]

Wow Nomormon !!!! Thats tuff man. Hang in there, in many ways I wish I had come out sooner to my TBM wife. Its great when you no longer have to live a lie. Better days ahead for you im sure. God will bless you with someone who loves you for who you really are. In many ways I am jealous of you being "out". I think Gods plan is soooooo much simpler than secret handshakes, conferences, and being judged by another man if you are worthy to go to the temple or not its all bullshit . I believe in Christ and thats all I need !!!!!!!!

[moksha]

Would it be ideal if spouses could NOM together?