NOM

One of the things that really struck me in Josh's comments and that I've been turning over and over in my mind was his realization that his being gay was beautiful and good. That he was valuable because, not in spite of, being gay. I have known many gay men and been close to a couple, and I have to agree: a significant part of what makes them special and dear is their homosexuality. (There's a Ted talk somewhere that goes deeper into the unique and important things that a gay child brings to his family; it was really good).

When I told my bishop in the early nineties about my feelings, he suggested that it was a blessing--not just because of the trials--but because I was blessed with a deeper love for my brothers. I have only really had good bishops (I lucked out on roulette?). Unfortunately, none of them could really help me, because, in the end, they couldn't change Church policy and teachings.

So the laws of physics (causality) apply to everyone after all!

Cause and effect rules.

Josh started wishing he were dead, and that gave him the heads-up that something was wrong. Effect.
Josh analyzed his life and realized that wanting it all in Mormonism does not work if you are gay. Cause.

So glad to see this development. I only wish the church would see what Josh now sees, but they are still in hiding from the laws of physics. But the effects will eventually catch up with the church and its leaders. I just wonder whether they will ever accept the causes. The reality that pretending to be something you are not, and believing false ideas are true, even if it feels good, is not the path to truth.