deacon blues wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:39 am
Is forgiveness pretending, or forgetting something ever happened?

Maybe. Could this actually be called changing the past? Nope. We could forgive Oswald/Whomever for killing Kennedy, but it still happened, and unequivocally changed the lives of millions.
It's weird, but this is what finally did in the idea of atonement for me. No matter how contrite a person is, how regretfully they are, it doesn't change things that have happened. It reminds me of Ed Snows line "I cannot bring your dead back to life, or restore your homes. But perhaps I can bring you justice in the name of our king..." Yet even as the hand of the king, he couldnt. No one can. You can kill the murderer, I could sleep with another woman to get even with my wife, you can pay for the candy bar.....it doesn't change what happened and isn't justice.
DB pointed out it can change the future, but even that idea I reject since the futures not set. I can keep trying to work things out with my wife, for example, but it doesn't move us back to where we would have been without her affair. My uncle, who found out ten plus years ago my aunt was cheating on him, told me that even a decade later "you'll find yourself going into a panic when she doesn't answer her phone, or her car is gone when you get home. Be prepared, it's going to be a long, long time before your marriage feels like one again--and it will NEVER be like it was."
The idea he'll "make it right in heaven" is laughable because the impact years, decades, and generations later affects so many things, it literally mutes human existence, so why even set it all up if in heaven eve doesn't even eat the fruit?
God can't change the past, can't minimize it's impact on the future. He can't succor your wounds or morn with those who morn. A higher power might as well check out and watch lifetime reruns all day.
It's frustrating to see the last resort in a discussion of facts be: I disregard those facts because of my faith. Why even talk about facts if the last resort is to put faith above all facts that are contrary to your faith?