Jeffret wrote: ↑Thu Feb 01, 2018 10:57 am
alas wrote: ↑Thu Feb 01, 2018 12:43 am
Now a pure behaviorist (if such an animal exists anymore) will say a belief is a behavior, but I find it more useful to see a belief as a cognition. Separate the outward behavior from the inward behavior, if you will.
I am much more into the cognitive stuff myself because it is the only therapy model proven helpful. And this involves lots of choices about what we believe. Basically it is a method of examining the false beliefs that are screwing up your life so that you can stop screwing it up. But since this conversation is kind of about religious beliefs and in therapy the therapist does not touch those, so I have not gotten into the way we change our beliefs on purpose using cognitive techniques. Back to the lucky blue shirt, that is a faulty belief that may want to be examined in cognitive therapy if the guy has a gambling problem. But we don't touch the God stuff.
After our fascinating romp through various aspects of philosophy and existentialism, alas is trying to pull us back to more along the lines of the original question with a number of excellent comments. I wanted to highlight these specific ones, though I found the whole post spot on.
I think it's valuable to recognize that we really don't know. We have not been able to determine if we truly have free will or to what degree we do. We really don't know if belief is a choice. Or in what manner it is. Or how much. Or what types of beliefs.
But as I mentioned above and alas here elaborated on,
I think we're best off if we behave as if we have at least some choice in our beliefs. And at least to some degree we can choose to change them. In the case of the poker player, he could choose to change his beliefs about how his shirt impacts his results. alas is the expert on these cognitive therapies, but from what I know of them, dealing with the idea that beliefs can be changed has shown productive results, indeed about the best results of anything. It doesn't mean that it isn't difficult to change or choose or beliefs or there might barriers or limitations. Practice.
When it comes to specific beliefs, then it can become more challenging. Could you choose to literally believe in Santa as an adult despite all of the counter evidence? Maybe. Maybe not. It's tough to really say, though it seems somewhat unlikely. It's certainly possible to finesse it and maintain a belief in the spirit of Santa or the story / myth or the aggregated actions of everyone in society who participates. This is the message of "Yes, Virginia there is a Santa Claus". This same sort of approach is what a lot of spiritual but not religious people follow.
I put one bold marks on one sentence in what Jeffret said here. It is very important for us to believe we make choices. People who feel they are totally controlled by fate, or other people, or their environment give up on life and die. Whether it is true or not, it is very important to our emotional well being that we believe that our choices make a difference. One famous experiment put rats in a situation where nothing they did made any difference is getting an electrical shock. The other group of rats they put in a situation where they could learn to control whether or not they got shocked. Then they put the rats in a tub of water that they could not get out of and measured how long they kept swimming. The rats who could not control their environment gave up and sank to drown in about five minutes. (the psychologists pulled them out before letting them die) the rats who believed that what they did made a difference kept swimming until they were too exhausted to keep going. Up to 24 hours, compared to 5 minutes.
So, the belief that what you do can make a difference is huge. The belief that you cannot control your own behavior leads to depression. Which if you don't change your belief you will give up and die at the first problem. And a belief is a behavior, even if it is internal behavior. This belief that nothing I can do makes any difference is common among battered wives and children. It takes a safe environment and then therapy to change this belief. But we can change this belief. Been there done that. Both myself and doing therapy with others.
There is a reason they call this kind of thinking nihilistic.
Maybe that is one reason that some philosophers bug me. The, "I am just a brain being fed input, in some grand warped experiment" yeah, kinda stupid. The truth is you wouldn't know. But really, the arrogance of thinking you might be the guy in this false reality with people just watching your reaction to this huge elaborate fake reality. It is both extremely arrogant and extremely stupid. No, if the experimenters could pull it off perfectly, then you wouldn't know. But the experimenters could never pull it off perfectly, and why the hell bother? Are you so important that they would go to that much effort to create a fake reality?
But there is one rule with changing beliefs. You have to change from dysfunctional faulty beliefs by finding evidence in reality, to realistic, more true, more functional beliefs. So, I don't recommend trying to go back to believing in Santa. You would have to be delusional. If you can't find evidence in reality to support your desired belief, you are unlikely to change it. And therapists don't mess with religious beliefs because it is considered unethical----except for the ones who work for LDS FS. But the second reason is that it is hard to find evidence for or against religious beliefs, and unless they are destructive therapist don't mess with them.
But let's take an example of a dysfunctional belief. Gal comes in depressed. Therapist asks questions and finds a recent event. She was going to meet a friend for lunch. The friend doesn't show. Gal feels sad. What about this makes you sad? She must not like me after all. The little things like this is clients life build up into depression.
So, far we have an event=friend didn't show.
We have a belief=if my friend breaks a date=she must not like me=nobody likes me and I am worthless.
And we have an emotion=feeling sad and depressed.
So, challenge the belief. what if friend had car trouble? What if she got the wrong restaurant? What if she was sick? Did you check with friend? So, the therapist get the client to check facts and either confirm the belief or prove it wrong. After several events like this, and examining the dysfunctional beliefs, the client starts to change beliefs like, "nobody likes me" and, " nothing I do makes any difference."
We do the same thing without a therapist. Going to church makes me unhappy. So, what is happening at church and what do you believe about it? Well, the men=priesthood are glorified and women are second class. So I am worthless and God doesn't love me. At some point our brain goes, wait a cotton pickin minute. Who says I am worthless and God doesn't love me? And we suffer a bit of cog dis and then conclude that "what I am being taught at church is crap." We challenge the belief that is making us miserable and we find a happier belief. That involves noticing the unhappy, seeing the event that causes our feeling, and examining the belief that the church is the church of God so what it does is what God does. And when we examine the underlying belief, we find a problem with it, then find a way to change the belief. Or we stay happy and stuff it deep inside.