I'm battling some depression

[MerrieMiss]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Like trophywife, I've felt depressed since I decided the church isn't true. I'm probably inclined to depression anyway, but it's been years now since I came up for air. I'm filled with emptiness, ennui, a complete lack of energy and motivation. It sucks.

For myself, my identity was very wrapped up in the church and I've really struggled with remaking myself and socially it has been difficult because I realized since becoming a SAHM I lost all my old non-mormon ties and only knew other SAHM mormons. I've tried some meetup groups and other things, but...I don't know. Nothing's really stuck.

For me I think the thing that has helped most is time. It's been seven years (I think) since the shelf broke. I very slowly edged away from my old TBM friends, many moved, now I have.

I used to exercise with TBM ladies - it was helpful after the kids were born because it got me out of the house, but I've only done it once in the past month because I realize I'm always upset after meeting up with them - upset of myself for being fake, upset because I don't have any real friends, it makes me feel even more empty and lonely. So now I exercise alone. As much as exercise is touted as being great for depression, I don't find it helps me much. I feel good while I'm doing it, but I go right back to feeling lousy when I'm done. Getting out in nature helps more. It can boost my mood for several hours.

Like you, I'm concerned about my kids with respect to the grandparents. My parents are fine, my in-laws would take it terribly.

Anyway, sorry for rambling. It's terrible you're depressed, I wish I had some way to make it better or go away. It sounds like you have your husband on your side, anyway. And of course there's us here.

[Raylan Givens]

Tough situation. I hope you keep moving upward.

Only advice I have is to, read some good books and keep listening to music that you love, and maybe find a nice lady NOM to have lunch with.

Riding my bicycle was my therapy.

[Thoughtful]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Like trophywife, I've felt depressed since I decided the church isn't true. I'm probably inclined to depression anyway, but it's been years now since I came up for air. I'm filled with emptiness, ennui, a complete lack of energy and motivation. It sucks.

For myself, my identity was very wrapped up in the church and I've really struggled with remaking myself and socially it has been difficult because I realized since becoming a SAHM I lost all my old non-mormon ties and only knew other SAHM mormons. I've tried some meetup groups and other things, but...I don't know. Nothing's really stuck.

For me I think the thing that has helped most is time. It's been seven years (I think) since the shelf broke. I very slowly edged away from my old TBM friends, many moved, now I have.

I used to exercise with TBM ladies - it was helpful after the kids were born because it got me out of the house, but I've only done it once in the past month because I realize I'm always upset after meeting up with them - upset of myself for being fake, upset because I don't have any real friends, it makes me feel even more empty and lonely. So now I exercise alone. As much as exercise is touted as being great for depression, I don't find it helps me much. I feel good while I'm doing it, but I go right back to feeling lousy when I'm done. Getting out in nature helps more. It can boost my mood for several hours.

Like you, I'm concerned about my kids with respect to the grandparents. My parents are fine, my in-laws would take it terribly.

Anyway, sorry for rambling. It's terrible you're depressed, I wish I had some way to make it better or go away. It sounds like you have your husband on your side, anyway. And of course there's us here.

Yes, exactly. When I hang out with LDS ladies, I am always irritated to infuriated afterward because the competition, ignorance, superficiality... drives me batty.

I'm sorry you're there too, while also grateful to not be alone.