Mrs. 2bizE has my back

[2bizE]

I had a really good talk with Mrs. 2bizE last night. She is the love of my life. We have a bunch of kids together and have been married for more than 20 years. I continue to slowly express my NOM beliefs. She is slowly becoming disaffected with the church. She despises the November policy. The only reason it hasn't affected us much is because we have few gay people in our lives. Over time that will change. She talked about how much she dislikes some ward members and decisions of a bishop. When our DD turned 18 my wife encouraged her to go to RS with her. The YW president with the bishop objected, thinking she should attend YW instead. My daughter hated the YW presidency and wouldn't go, now she wouldn't go to church at all. The former RSP also would not let anyone help out another sister with meals or anything unless it went through her first for approval. Really. The church is such a struggle for power. DW is seeing this. She wants me to be an example and go to church for the sake of our children, but she is becoming more comfortable with my disbelief in the church. Small steps will lead to big change.

[ThirdTier]

I'm happy for you and your wife. DW is slowly turning NOMey too.

[slk]

Congrats to the two of you.

My DW is still a TBM and knows of my disbelief and only cried the one night that I broke the news to her. This was around a year ago. I haven't pushed it on her whatsoever. I feel I have it pretty good right now since she doesn't ask me to go to church. She entrenched slightly, enough to get her TR for DD's wedding that was later called off.

I figure I will take it way slow for now since it is working for the two of us. Next step might be to find a book I will bait her with. I'm thinking something on polygamy might be her weakness. Then again I may not do anything since she hasn't said anything in a year and seems to love me the way I am.

[Lithium Sunset]

I continue to slowly express my NOM beliefs. She is slowly becoming disaffected with the church.

This is awesome to hear(read). I am very happy for you! I know your post gives hope to a lot of spouses.

It's hard to go slow on our end but they must find their own way out of the church, we can't drag them. Be yourself and be kind... and when they want to know beyond what the chruch tells them to believe, put them in front of google haha. Google can speed up the process exponentially.

[FoundMyOwnWay]

That's great news. My wife is still TBM, but I swear I don't know how. We read the book of abraham essay together, and she got very frustrated with it. She realized right off the bat how it is written in such a roundabout way as to be very confusing. She doesn't even enjoy church anymore, but somehow still proclaims its true. I'm on the slow boat path as well now, just watching and trying to support her as best I can. The church teachings do weigh on her though.

[MalcolmVillager]

That's great news. My wife is still TBM, but I swear I don't know how. We read the book of abraham essay together, and she got very frustrated with it. She realized right off the bat how it is written in such a roundabout way as to be very confusing. She doesn't even enjoy church anymore, but somehow still proclaims its true. I'm on the slow boat path as well now, just watching and trying to support her as best I can. The church teachings do weigh on her though.

Mrs Villager is in a similar place. She is slowly drifting away from the good ship but does not study or really think about it. We will see. I am good for now with lower tithing and some other leeway in my life. The kids sense what is going on and the oldest DD keeps pushing to read family scriptures and such. They are good kids. We will give them a better path than what we had (no blind faith and some exposure to the problems).