Yesterday I had lunch with one of my closest TBM friends. He didn't know about my change in beliefs, though I felt like I was being disingenuous by not telling him. He was the last person that I feel a real need to tell, other than DW's family but that is her family so I think she gets to decide if/when that happens. So I took the opportunity to tell him. He used the most trigger words in his response, but was also very genuine in his desire to not kick me out of his tribe. So pretty good.
And that's everyone. I want to say it feels good to be open with everyone, but I'm not sure yet. Our relationships are forever changed and there is no going back.
I think that's all of them
I think that's all of them
"I would write about life. Every person would be exactly as important as any other. All facts would also be given equal weightiness. Nothing would be left out. Let others bring order to chaos. I would bring chaos to order" - Kurt Vonnegut
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Lithium Sunset
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Re: I think that's all of them
Fingers crossed that things move forward in a positive direction and you can enjoying being yourself!
I have no doubt some days will be hard but I hope you can look back in a year or two and be glad for this turning point.
I have no doubt some days will be hard but I hope you can look back in a year or two and be glad for this turning point.
"The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong." -Laura Ingalls Wilder
Re: I think that's all of them
Congrats on getting out there. It's a bumpy road but the views at the end are spectacular.
Reading can severely damage your ignorance.
Re: I think that's all of them
Somedays this place feels like the Mormon Rehabilitation Unit.
It's time we release you. You'll be fine. Just remember to eat, drink, and be merry.
It's time we release you. You'll be fine. Just remember to eat, drink, and be merry.
“It always devolves to Pantaloons. Always.” ~ Fluffy
“I switched baristas” ~ Lady Gaga
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
“I switched baristas” ~ Lady Gaga
“Those who do not move do not notice their chains.” ~Rosa Luxemburg
Re: I think that's all of them
Sounds like you're making great progress.
Congratulations.
I think it will be more and more important to get busy doing some things you love to do.
Enjoy. The world is really exciting.
Congratulations.
I think it will be more and more important to get busy doing some things you love to do.
Enjoy. The world is really exciting.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.
Rumi
Rumi
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trophywife26.2
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Re: I think that's all of them
Congratulations! That's a big step. Sometimes some of the relationships will let go or move on, but that is okay. That happens in life, with or without the church. I try to think of church friends the same way I'd think of a gym buddy. If I stop going to the gym, my gym buddy won't be spending as much (if any) time with me. It doesn't mean we don't like each other, it just means our lives are taking a different path for now.
Even if it's something disappointing, it's still better to know the truth. Because people can deal with disappointment. And once they've done that, they can feel that they have really grown. And that can be such a good feeling. -Fred Rogers
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JustHangingOn@57
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Re: I think that's all of them
I hate to say it but you have the stink of Satan on you my friend. Stan will be using everything in his power to use you as a tool to get your friend to not live up to his covenants.
My closest cousin, who I had grew up with, who helped me get through some rough times as a teenager, Treated me like a leper when I told him I no longer believed in the church. It really hurt. And the kicker? He was a jack mormon, never went to church, didn't pay tithing, never had a calling. But by god you speak I'll of the COJCOLDS and you are dead to him.
My closest cousin, who I had grew up with, who helped me get through some rough times as a teenager, Treated me like a leper when I told him I no longer believed in the church. It really hurt. And the kicker? He was a jack mormon, never went to church, didn't pay tithing, never had a calling. But by god you speak I'll of the COJCOLDS and you are dead to him.