NOM

For me, while the faith crisis itself was stressful and depressing, with each step away from the church, my depression diminished. Turns out the church was a major source stress, especially during my 6 months of questioning.

Even as a TBM, I hated that phrase. It was riddled with so much magical thinking that I could never take it seriously. I could take one quick look at the world and say, "No. Not everything happens for a reason. Not unless that reason is 'this is just the natural consequence of all that has happened ...

Just got invitations to an activity tonight from one of the EQ presidency and a time/location from the missionaries. I turned down the invitation. I'm preparing my love bomb shelter. I know the love bombing is coming soon. The casserole patrol is on its way, ready to bribe me into coming back. It's ...

Actually, there is, but that time is when you're single and have no friends. The rest of the time you have to make the opportunity because they don't usually appear magically. Even in my current situation, there are other events that go on- weddings, baptisms, mission calls, weddings, farewells ...

I think it's because the doctrine itself is rarely offensive. It's the implications of the doctrine that is offensive. With polygamy: okay, so a man can marry multiple women... That's okay, I guess... But the practice was done in secret and thus the implications are that it tends to be abusive and ...

This is how I understand it: NOMs either don't believe or are very nuanced in their belief, but continue to engage with the church for various reasons, usually for their spouses. NOMs typically try to focus on the good in the church, while not ignoring the bad. Exmos are out completely. Sometimes ...

IT_Veteran wrote: ↑Thu May 03, 2018 8:53 pm

Perfigliano wrote: ↑Thu May 03, 2018 7:44 pm Well considering that I'm single, that's a non-issue.

Sorry for the assumption, I have trouble keeping people’s circumstances here sometimes.

It's all good. It's not the first time someone assumed I was married.

Well considering that I'm single, that's a non-issue.

Tracting in general is a bad idea. It's ineffective and damages the church's reputation. So what if a small percentage of success comes from it? It does more harm than good. I texted them and canceled. The response was "No worries! How are you doing with everything? We haven't seen you in a little ...

I think I signed up for next week for some reason. I probably felt obligated or thought I would last longer. Frankly, I don't want to interact with the church right now. I want to cancel early so that someone else can feed them. I know I would have wanted that in their position. But it would be so ...

Similar discussions went on between church members about caffeinated beverages before Elder Uchtdorf gave it the official thumbs-up in a conference talk. The main difference was that nobody could find any health benefits for Coke, but they drank/drink it by the case anyway. The interesting thing ...

I think it's useful to be acquainted with all sorts of mythology for the sake of being cultured. I'll probably tell my kids the major Bible stories, but I'll teach them just like any other mythology... when the stories are age appropriate. Abraham nearly murdering Isaac and God committing genocide ...

Hmm... I wonder where that sweet tooth comes from...

Maybe it's from the WoW, the trendy health advice passed as a revelation. The only thing it is definitively right about is tobacco. Maybe not the "sick cattle" part though.

My work has a free coffee machine. I tried a latte today. HOLY CRAP that stuff is bitter. I was expecting bitter, but not that bitter. I was expecting to at least be able to taste something interesting. I had a little bit of a Java Monster later. That was actually pretty tasty. It reminded me of ...

I have a TBM friend who hates that hymn because it comes off as prophet worship. It has made me feel sick since my FC.

Welcome to the forum. I'm new too. 3 ~ I recently came out to my husband (after 18 years of marriage) that I am bisexual. Now having that at the surface and no longer trying to push it into the dark recesses of my mind has forced me to deal with experiences growing up in a very anti-LGBT community ...

From what I understand, it's pretty natural to want to cling to one's belief. I spent 7 months or so wrestling with my belief and trying to cling to it in some sort of nuanced way. The mental gymnastics got pretty intense. When I finally accepted that I no longer believed, the process of letting go ...

I'm on my way out at this point and I have nobody but me to answer to. So I don't really think of myself as Mormon. It's so fresh that I really don't know if I should be happy or sad about it. I'm not really losing much community, but it's a bummer that something that once made me so happy now does ...

The last 2 weeks, I went on walks around a city park instead of going to church. It's relaxing.

I'm still insecure in my unbelief. I'm sure that will pass eventually.

It's part of why I hate con artist evangelical "Mormon baiters" even to this day, because their selfish greed obscures the truth about the church as much as the church itself. This is kind of mind blowing to think about, that when the evangelicals create outlandish publications it creates backfire ...